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04 September 2008

Revisionist History

I'm not sure, but I think I may have arrived at old age somewhere and not known it. Selective forgetfulness has kicked in; I just hadn't realized it.

Not long ago I let my son know that I was disappointed in a grade that he'd made. As if on cue (though it wasn't planned), my wife handed me a bag of old papers that my parents had come across when going through some old things in the attic or storage area of their house. Can you see where I'm going with this?

I thought that my grades and attitude had taken a nose dive in about 11th grade, after I'd acclimated to the public school system (several years after being out of private school), and this is the kind of info I'd been relaying to my son. Lo and behold, as I opened the bag and pulled out a set of papers, there was a report card from ninth grade! The first two six weeks' grades in Algebra were 70! Both of them! And to top it off, in the "Conduct" box, the number three was written -- "poor study habits."


I'm searching for a Scriptural parallel to this situation. "...You may be sure that your sin will find you out. " (Numbers 32:23, NLT)? That's out of context here, but it seems to apply.

I don't suppose any of you have ever had this sort of situation pop up, eh?


Jan said...

yes, except it was my parents who did this to me! Exact same scenario. I was expected to make straight A's. I actually was an adult before I realized "A" was not for "average"! If I made a B or even a C I felt like that was a failure. Lo and behold I found my Dad's report cards and his grades were WAY worse than mine - I was an honor student but not at the top of the class. Then my mom finally confessed to almost failing spelling in 5th grade! I thought - "Wait a minute, what's all this pressure about?!". Now I know they wanted me to do my best and alot of that pressure was just from ME. (and living with TWO teachers!)

Yes, many times we remember things as we would have LIKED them to be. Or we expect more of others than we do of ourselves!

Christy said...

As far as my kids are concerned, I haven't reached that new level of challenging situations (I'm NOT looking forward to it, either). As far as myself and my mom are concerned, however, after she died I came across one HER reports cards. he he! It wasn't one she would've wanted me to see back in the day, trust me. ;0)

Anonymous said...

Recently my daughter came across my senior yearbook and was reading the comments others had written. I was not very popular in H.S.(no clubs etc... "Mom, you were a loser")and I considered myself pretty shy (over 500 in my class. I had a great time but I did not realize how much I must have talked my way through most of it. I guess now texting has replaced talking or passing notes. I was pretty good passing notes too. LOL. Deanna

Preston N said...

I guess the best thing I tell my kids is "Look, your father has learned that actions have consequences - and trust me when I say I have experienced my fair share of "Bad Consequences" and as a result I don't want you to have to experience them also" in other words learn from my failures rather than having to painfully experience them for yourselves.

I think this is what God desires for all of mankind - not that he has experienced "Bad consequences", but out of his knowledge he desires that we don't have to be dragged over the coals as a result of sin.

My son, let them not depart from thine eyes; Keep sound wisdom and discretion: So shall they be life unto thy soul, And grace to thy neck. (Pro 3:21-22)

Dean Lusk said...

I keep trying to remember how much of what I say is stuff that a 13-year-old will actually listen to, and tailor my discussions and admonitions accordingly; I really like what Preston has said here, and I've attempted to use this situation that way. No idea yet if it's hit home. I'm sure that, at some point, I'll get a "But you made a C- in Algebra, Dad!"

The other comments made me smile (and they made me have pity on Jan -- your parents were both teachers?! Yow!).

Preston N said...

Dean - I also have come to realize that 13 years olds (mine included) have indeed very thick skulls and very small brains - a horrible combination! I think God mercifully created them this way so that when their small brains make silly decisions their skulls can at least withstand the "consequences"! :)

Anonymous said...

It's tough as a parent. We want our kids to do their best and know that they are fullying applying themselves; therefore we don't want them to use our failures as a cop-out for their efforts. On the other hand, they need to know we weren't and aren't perfect - while maintaining parental authority. I know I wish my mom had told me more about her failures (and what she learned) so I wouldn't go that direction, too. Maybe we/I could somehow get the attention off ourselves and encourage them to look to the One who is perfect and created them. Fix our eyes on Jesus - the Creator. He's the Word that doesn't return void and penetrates. Now you all have me wanting to call my folks and find out what their grades were...


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